Music Can Make You or Break You: Pick Your Music Wisely

Music is one of life’s most wonderful experiences.

Some of my best and happiest memories are associated with particular songs or types of music.

Most people know that music can affect your mood. So it should make sense that the type of music you listen to is important, right?

If you listen to sad music, you feel sad. Angry music, you feel angry. Happy music, you feel happy. Empty-headed music, you feel empty-headed…

That should be a no-brainer.


I used to play guitar back in high school, but I fell off over the years. I still have my very first acoustic guitar, though; she’s an Ibanez. Maybe I’ll pick her back up again some day.

Listen to What Makes You Happy

Since music can affect your mood so easily, it’s important to listen to what makes you happy.

I listen to EDM (electronic dance music) a majority of the time. I feel as if it places me into a high-energy state, and certain genres like trance will allow me to completely zone out and crank through hours of work without noticing the clock ticking by.

I particularly enjoy progressive and deep house, as well as trap and trance.

The right song in the right moment can solidify an emotional experience into your memory forever. I can hear some songs at any place or time and immediately be transported back to a vivid, emotional point in my memory.

One of these “emotional catharsis” moments was at EDCLV 2014 with some very good friends. We were watching the largest fireworks show any of us had ever seen while flying high above the crowds in a Ferris wheel. My first trip to Las Vegas was incredible.

Sadly, I have no idea what song was playing at this EXACT moment considering we weren’t directly in front of any stages. But so many other memories were formed when we were at the other sets… it was fantastic.

These are by no means my absolute favorites, but here are some awesome EDM picks. Some are due to memories. Some just because they’re bad ass.

Honestly, when it comes to my preferences in music, I blame all the subliminal programming I received when I was growing up. Damn Gameboy music…

Regardless, I love EDM.

Since music can so easily affect your emotions, I try not to listen to anything absentmindedly.

There’s a big difference between actively listening to music that you enjoy, and listening to sad, emotional songs when you are feeling depressed. One uplifts you. The other makes you want to grab a knife.

I also don’t listen to the radio, because it’s all empty-headed music and advertisements to brainwash you into being a better consumer of packaged bullshit. Instead, I listen to playlists on Spotify or audio books.

Different types of music serve different purposes for me. Some genres I listen to when I’m working, some when I’m lifting, driving, etc.

I try my best not to allow music to control my emotions. Instead, I USE music to experience different emotions.

Music can serve a purpose for you as well.

It can become an outlet for any pent up anger or frustration you may have. It can allow you to use your imagination and practice the art of envisioning.

Your imagination is a powerful tool for releasing stress and bringing about positive changes in your life.

You should wield it.

I Grew Up In The Bible Belt, But I Worship The Devil’s Music

I was born a redneck in Virginia and my high school was around 70% black. I like blowing shit up, riding things that can kill me, and listening to gangster rap.

Growing up I listened to a lot of rock and punk rock. Metallica and Blink-182. Bands like that.

Now, I listen to more rap.

The South is serious about its Christianity. And if you’re not a Christian, people tend to have a problem with that.

I am an agnostic theist.

Agnostic theism is the belief that there is a metaphysical higher power (a God or Gods), but does not claim that the belief can be proven or even knowable. Basically, you believe in a higher power but don’t force that belief onto others. Whether that power is the Christian God, Allah, or any other, the point is moot, at least to me.

But whoah! Try being a non-follower in the South.

People look at you like you’re crazy.

I’d like to set the record straight. Just because you don’t follow an ideology or gobble up the “authority” of someone else, that doesn’t make you a bad person.

When you don’t fall in line, you offend people. When you don’t censor your viewpoints to make others feel less insecure, you offend people. When you refuse to be “politically correct” or prominently display “trigger warnings,” you offend people.

I don’t go to church and I don’t follow a religion, although I have my own spiritual beliefs.

I trust more in myself and a gun more than I do anyone else. I don’t trust or believe the government or mainstream media.

I don’t subscribe to the false dichotomy of left vs. right, liberal vs. conservative.

I curse. I talk about uncomfortable subjects. I enjoy thought-provoking conversations. Many people do not.

Most people want to live in the dark and simply have you confirm their biases. They do not enjoy opposing viewpoints.

Challenge the status quo. Don’t be a little, beta bitch that panders to a bunch of social justice warriors shouting about “political correctness” or “trigger warnings.”

Speaking of SJWs… here’s something to piss them off.

The Dark Side of my musical preferences…

Slim Shady

Eminem is a fantastic storyteller and can weave words together in amazing ways. That’s why he is one of my favorite artists.

Let’s talk about Eminem’s Relapse: Refill album.

Relapse: Refill is a psychotic album, full of torture, murder, rape, homosexuals, drug abuse, and conversations with the Devil.

But at the same time, this album is hilarious. From kidnapping and murdering Lindsay Lohan and Britney Spears, to break dancing with Christopher Reeves, to making skin-suits as Buffalo Bill… you get to hear some pretty sick mental scenes. And of course Eminem’s twisted sense of humor.

I sometimes look a little insane when I’m lifting. It’s because I’m probably listening to this album.


Evil is in human nature.

Just look at how little children play. Read Lord of the Flies. Jesus, just look around you.

Evil exists. Plain and simple. So we shouldn’t blind ourselves to that fact. And we shouldn’t repress our emotions either.

People who think rap music causes violence are retarded.

Just like those who think Grand Theft Auto causes school shootings are lacking a bit in their cognitive processing.

We can either repress our urges of violence and eventually snap one day… drowning our toddlers in the bathwater or murdering our adulterous wives in the trailer park.

Or we can embrace them in a positive way.

Listening to music, playing video games, watching movies — none of these things cause violence. You should use them to exercise your mind and learn how to deal with dark thoughts. But don’t put on a bunch of depressing shit and hit repeat.

Why not listen to Bagpipes from Baghdad, instead? It’s one of my favorite songs, mainly because I love this wonderfully-crafted, absolutely offensive verse:

In the bed with two brain dead lesbian vegetables…
I bet you they become heterosexual.
Nothing will stop me from molesting you.
Titty fuckin’ you till your breast nipple flesh tickles my testicles.
Is what they said to the two conjoined twins,
“How’s it going girlfriends, you need a boyfriend?”
You need some ointment?
Just set up an appointment.
Who’s gonna see the doctor first?
We’ll do a coin flip.
I just got my one year sobriety coin chip!
When the bad get going, how bad does the going get?
Baby, you shouldn’t have any trouble rubbing groins with,
Each other, especially when you’re joined at the hip.
I’m going to get the needle and thread from the sewing kit,
And attempt to separate ’em, and stitch ’em back at the loins… Shit!
Lure the little boy with the chocolate Chips Ahoy! chip.
Cookie! Lookie! Even took me a Polaroid pic!
— Eminem, Bagpipes from Baghdad

When I’m in the gym, Eminem is one of my top artists to listen to. And it’s not just because he’s a lyrical genius.

What a lot of people don’t understand is that the (better) rappers are simply relating to people and trying to help them in their struggles.

So I wanna make sure somewhere in this chicken scratch I scribble and doodle enough rhymes to maybe try to help get some people through tough times.”
— Eminem, Rap God

Eminem has plenty of songs that aren’t sadistic and tell of his struggles through life, which are meant to help others stay on the grind.

Bitch, Don’t Interrupt My Set… I’m Slinging Dope In My Head!

I played pretend a lot when I was a child.

I have a very vivid and overactive imagination, which usually turns destructive if I don’t exercise it in a positive manner.

When I’m in the gym, I’m either pretending I’m a gangster slinging drugs on the streets or that I’m cracked out of my mind and murdering my opposition.

Sometimes, I like to pretend I’m Dwayne Johnson on coke when I’m lifting. I’m weird, yes, but fuck being an average chump.

Listening to gangster rap makes me think of all those on the grind — everyone who came from nothing and have hustled to achieve success.

It pushes me harder and increases my work ethic.

I’ve also noticed something a bit peculiar about my mentors and inspirations…

They are predominantly black.

I suspect this is because most white men today are a bunch of coddled liberal hipsters or politically correct pussies.

I look around and all I see is a bunch of soft, fat, dead-eyed beta white knights.

Most black men are not pussies. Enter the alpha males.

Alphas inspire me, not a bunch of beta cucks.

But anyway, back to the music. I like to throw on something a little more old school every now and then.

When I’m in the gym, I’m not just training my body. I’m also training my mind.

Your brain works better when it receives more oxygen, more blood flow. And I am constantly thinking.

When I’m in the gym, I’m constantly thinking of new business ideas. New marketing strategies. New ways to engage my readers.

But most of all, I’m visualizing.

For as long as I can remember I always wanted to be a gangster.”
— Goodfellas

I’m visualizing myself having already accomplished my goals, and living a high speed lifestyle.

The game is just getting started.

No sense in slowing down.

Selena Gomez Grew Up

Music is sexy too.

Sometimes I envision a cute little Latina laying it all out for me…

Selena definitely fits that bill.

Diversify Your Tastes

Break out of your normal routines.

Pick up a new skill.

Try a new hobby.

Listen to something new.

Average guys listen to average shit, things that women hear all the time.

Set yourself apart with your musical preferences. It can help make you a man of mystery that women just can’t completely figure out.

Just remember, if I look a little crazy in the gym, it’s because the blood is pumping and I’m listening to the sounds of chainsaws revving, puppies barking, women screaming, and Dark Passenger ramblings…

But most the time, I like to rise and grind to something a little more uplifting. Like Rob Bailey & the Hustle Standard.

Till next time,

Nick Hagood
Masculinity Rising

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